Focus on getting better

Hoping we have the ability to improve and reach our goals is important, but believing you can get the ability is so much more important. Many of us believe that our intelligence, our personality, and our physical aptitudes are fixed - that no matter what we do, we won't improve. As a result, we focus on goals that are all about proving ourselves, rather than developing and acquiring new skills. Fortunately, decades of research suggest that the belief in fixed ability is completely wrong - abilities of all kinds are profoundly malleable. Embracing the fact that you can change will allow you to make better choices and reach your fullest potential. Amongst many things we can set goals about is getting better at important aspects of our lives, taking difficulty in our stride and appreciating the journey as much as the destination.

In Dead Poet's Society

Robin Williams claimed...Carpe Diem!...Seize the Day!

Every day YOU and I have the opportunity to decide how we will use our time. Will we fritter it away - being too scared to act?

Become so wrapped up in something that you forget to be afraid!

Triggers and Red Flag Words

Everyone of us has times when it seems someone else is causing us angst.

Often it is as simple as a look on their face or a word they use... perhaps it's the tone, the tempo or volume.... it can seem as if they are waving a red flag right in our face.

It is in those next microseconds when you decide how to react. Yes! You can decide! The question is how are you programmed to respond? Have you actually decided what would be a good response or do you simply respond without even thinking? Most of us have had circumstances where later we realise we should have handled it differently. The good news is that you can change if you want to!

I suggest you learn to recognise your triggers and decide how you will respond next time, then practice the response.